#RoadTo27 Day 3 – Be You.

I guess this is kinda turning into a “things I’ve learned” series…Lord knows I’ve sure as hell learned a LOT over the last year.

This morning I woke up reluctantly after a rough nights sleep knowing I had to get ready to go to a second interview. You could say I was less than excited. Not because I don’t want the job, I actually really love the company and hope I land it, but because I wasn’t in the mood to get “girled up” and impress anyone today.

Then it hit me…I don’t have to.

I took the time for my first interview to make sure my hair was perfect, my makeup was flawless, my jeans were starched and pressed and my shirt was really nice. I mean, it’s important to present yourself well, right?

Today, however, I took a different approach. Knowing the available position had been narrowed down to myself and one other lady, I had an “all or nothing” attitude. If they don’t like me for plain ole me, they don’t want to hire me…because I’m not that starched jeans and red lip girl all the time. If my personality, attributes and experience don’t get me the job, but red lips will, well…I don’t want it anyway.

I took about 15 minutes to enjoy getting ready the way I would for any normal date night or something to that effect. Fixed my hair so it didn’t look so much like a disheveled hay bale, brightened my eyes a bit and made my eyelashes visible…nothing spectacular. I threw on the only pair of “non-work” jeans I had, a tank..and a neon pink and black button up shirt.

I laughed to myself when I looked in the mirror; I felt just exactly like me. That’s a good feeling. With my confidence high I strolled to the interview.

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I was early, as usual. This gave me a few minutes to visit with one of the fellas before the other showed up. It was in this small talk that I learned something about myself…

It wasn’t the pressed jeans and put together look that got me that second interview..it was my handshake.

When he said to me “So, you used to work on a ranch? That tells me a lot about your work ethic.” …it made me smile. I take a lot of pride in those years of loping ponies and long hours with the greatest West Texas cowboy I know, and I learned a lot.

“Yes sir.” I said..and I noticed an ornery looking grin about him.

Then he said, “You know what really impressed me about you?” …puzzled, I shook my head, and that’s when he said “Your handshake.”

Now I was the one with the ornery grin! When someone compliments something that is relevant to my character, I can’t usually contain myself. Of course I gave him a thank you, but he went on to say “It’s not often you get a handshake like that, it’s respectable.”

I was seriously speechless.

The second fella showed up and we proceeded to visit about what they’d require, my ability to do those things not originally discussed, etc….near the end of our chat a man walked into the office. He seemed important, sure enough …it was their CPA. I stood and shook his hand when they introduced us. Mr.CPA looked down at the fellas doing my interview like “Whoa, really?” …I just smiled as I sat back down.

Driving home I reflected on this. I had never thought about those little things. Those little signs of respect and sincerity that set me apart…the confidence I exude when introducing myself that makes me memorable. I know that I’m silly and quirky and funny and a bit odd, but I now know that those aren’t the qualities that stand out.

It’s my genuine being…it’s ME, as an individual. It’s my manners, it’s the way I was raised…it’s the fact that I’m different. It’s the fact that I respect people as individuals.

I’m pretty proud of that.

So, even if I don’t land this job…I know that in the last year of soul searching I’ve done something right. I’ve stayed true to my most genuine self. The woman who has never met a stranger, who respects everyone and who would do just about anything to put a smile on a face.

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Seriously, anything.

Stay true to who you are. Be YOU.

xoxo

OkieGirl

 

 

#RoadTo27 Day 2 – Change

Yesterday was day one of the newest DragonFit bootcamp round. I decided I was gong to fully commit this round, no half assing. I posted in our sisterhood group that I was going to do the “Mile For Time” challenge mentioned in our emails, and that I was going to crush my fastest mile. When I woke up this morning I had one thing on my mind – beating that time. I went to sleep thinking about it, I woke up thinking about it…I was going to do it.

I stretched and reached for my phone to check the time and the first thing I saw was a text from a girlfriend that said;

“Why am I afraid of change?!?!”

I sat there, phone in hand, trying to think of just what to tell her…

Because it’s scary! That’s why!!

What if you fail? What if you can’t do it? What if you lose friends? What if people mock you? What if…

…what if you succeed?

Over the last year I’ve made more changes than I can actually really wrap my head around. Small things like shaving off half my hair…and huge things like leaving my toxic marriage.

They were all scary, and they all caused exponential self growth. I’ve grown accustom to change, and I really like it – but it’s still very scary. I like it because I always grow and learn about myself, even if the change wasn’t necessarily “good”.

So, here’s my advice on change.

  • Embrace it, embrace the HELL out of it. It’s gonna be scary, but it’s going to be worth it.
  • Figure out what part of it is actually scaring you – for me, it’s often the fear of success.
  • Understand that every time you walk through a new door you’re going to lose people. Also understand that is perfectly okay. Most people we meet are just for certain phases of our lives, the ones who are meant to follow through each door will remain.
  • If there is someone who doesn’t support your change, they are NOT your tribe and you do not need them.
  • Seek positive energy and surround yourself with people who have similar goals and ambitions. It wasn’t until I did this that I really started to succeed.
  • Don’t worry about the thoughts of others. This is particularly true for lifestyle changes. When I started lifting like crazy and packing on muscle, I lost a lot of “friends” …that was my choice. No one get’s to decide what my body should look like but me!
  • LAUGH. When you hit a speed bump or completely screw up, laugh about it. Realize you’re human, find the light and just move forward.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help.Ever.
  • Find some consistency. Even if it doesn’t seem consistent, as long as you’re pushing towards your goals…you’re going to make the change permanent.
  • Don’t be afraid of failure. Failure is just in your head, there really are no failures…only lessons. Find the lesson and push forward. Readjust if you must, but keep moving towards the goal.
  • Get out of your own head. Don’t overthink it, just do it.

I think my last bit of advice on making change is this…

ALWAYS believe in yourself…and when you don’t, do it anyway.

I didn’t believe in myself when I stepped foot out to go on that run this morning. I knew there was NO way I was going to beat that time of 13:31…but I went out, and tried my damndest anyway.

I crushed it, by the way…by over 2 minutes.

You don’t always have to believe in yourself to create change, you just have to fight through the fear.

After all, on the other side of fear lies freedom.

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xoxo

OkieGirl

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just Start.

How To Start Your Health Journey

  1. MORE WATER – At least 3 liters a day, aim for a gallon
  2. CUT OUT THE POP – no soda, no sugary drinks, no Gatorade, no liquid CRAP.
  3. FORGET THE DIET – Get the idea of “going on a diet” out of your head and focus on creating a sustainable way of eating for life – not just for now.
  4. NO MORE “FAST & PROCESSED” – Skip the fast food and anything in a box. Keep to the outside aisles of your grocery store and as close to whole, real and natural foods as possible. 5 ingredients or less is a good rule of thumb.
  5. DON’T OVER COMPLICATE – Seriously, it’s not that hard. Food is fuel, use it as such. Eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full.
  6. LEARN WHEN YOU’RE FULL – Don’t drink with your meal. Before is fine, but stop when you start eating. When you get thirsty (more thirsty than hungry, that is) get a drink and STOP eating. This will retrain your brain to understand the difference in thirst and hunger.
  7. FORGET WHAT YOU “KNOW” – If you wake up in the morning, every single morning, and are NEVER hungry…don’t feel like you have to eat because “breakfast is the most important meal of the day” …breakfast has no time – it’s simply when you “break your fast”. If you’re not hungry until 10am or even 1pm …eat then. Your body is efficient and it’s telling you what it needs – LISTEN!
  8. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY – If you get tired after eating bread, stop. If you feel amazing after eating bacon, eat more. We all use fat and carbohydrates differently as fuel – some burn carbs better and some burn fat. Get in tune and figure out what your body likes.
  9. CARBS AREN’T THE DEVIL – Believe it or not, you need carbs to function. Choose them wisely and stop stressing, they aren’t going to kill you.
  10. REMOVE THE EMOTION – There should be no emotion attached to eating. It is not for celebrating, it is not a reward, it is simply fuel for your body. FOOD IS FUEL. Repeat that until you understand it. FOOD.IS.FUEL…nothing else.
  11. NO GUILT – NEVER feel guilty about eating something. If you want it, eat it! Enjoy it and move on. Don’t beat yourself up or even refer to those special goody meals as cheats – remember, food is just fuel…as long as you’re using race fuel about 80% of the time, that 20% of the time you use 87 octane pump gas isn’t going to hurt you. ENJOY your life.

The first step is simply trying. You will have hiccups, you will get confused and overwhelmed and begin to overthink…and when you do, go back to step 1 and KEEP trying until you find that sweet spot.

xoxo

OkieGirl

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So You Wanna Lose Some Weight?

So you wanna lose some weight, get healthy, build some muscle and lose some fat?

You say you’ve tried everything and nothing works…the fat just won’t come off. You’ve tried all the pills and quick fixes, you’ve worked out and ate healthy..there must just be something wrong with you.

Well, there is.

You’re lying to yourself.

How do I know? Because I’ve done it.

I’ve lied to myself about how much effort I was actually putting into workouts, and how healthy I was actually eating. I wanted an excuse as to why I was overweight other than I had done it to myself.

There isn’t one.

For exactly one month I have been 100% on point with my diet and have been consistent in my workouts. It’s sad for me to say this is the longest I’ve stuck to something…and guess what; I’m seeing the results I want!

I’m down 13 pounds and numerous inches in just this short time. My food selection is really limited right now, but that’s what I needed to make the change…and I don’t even feel deprived because it’s all SO good.

My workouts are crazy, fun and addictive…and it’s so amazing watching my body change.

My skin is clear, my brain fog is gone, my anger and anxiety have completely disappeared and I haven’t had a headache in a month. I am happier, I sleep better, I have SO much more energy and I don’t crash in the  afternoon. All my digestive issues have worked themselves out and my hair is even growing faster…oh yeah, and the fat loss and muscle gain is pretty great. On top of all that my body aches and joint pain is gone as well…WHY did it take me so long to really give this an honest try?

At this point…there is no going back. There is no more fast food or processed shit for this girl, and DAMN sure no gluten! I feel like I need to write my body a sincere apology for treating it so poorly for so long.

Most people don’t actually know how good they’re designed to feel.

So, here’s my advice.

Stop looking for that quick fix.

Cut out gluten, dairy and EVERY single processed food or drink, get in at least 3 GOOD workouts a week…and give that an HONEST effort for 4 weeks and then see how you feel.

Is it an easy change? HELL no…but it’s been the absolute best thing I’ve ever done…and I’ll never be the person I used to be because of it.

I will say…it’s so much easier if you have a partner (in my case, my wonderful husband). Sometimes you just need to whine about how much you really want that Red Lobster biscuit…and have someone who understands.

Also – it’s important to make it fun. Don’t think of it as something restrictive or a short term diet..look at it as a permanent change. Have little fitness contests with your partner in crime, and keep laughing through the struggles.

If you can make it 4 weeks…you can make it a lifetime.

You ARE worth it.

If you don’t have a partner…EMAIL ME! I’ll be your P.I.C!!

This life is to beautiful to waste it in pain and unhappy.

So, you get out there and KILL IT!

xoxo

OkieGirl

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Completely Or Not At All. { A Wandering Gypsy Post}

Try harder or walk away-that’s it, those are the choices. As I sit here & read this quote over & over in my head I start to feel as if I’m suffocating.

I haven’t been making these decisions in my life in quite some time, I’ve just been sitting here-existing. This goes for just about anything in our lives…..loving ourselves, loving a spouse, a family member, pursuing your dream or passion.

Have y’all heard the saying “there’s only one way to do everything, completely or not at all”? There is so much truth to that, when did we start thinking it was okay to half-ass something? What if a doctor half-assed a surgery he had to do?

What if a pilot half-assed flying the plane? Whatever we do, we should give it our all. We can choose to continue to give our all in our marriage, friendship, job, whatever it may be. Guys, WE CHOOSE! We choose to wake up & love ourselves, to not suffer.

Why is it that we make more stress & struggle for ourselves? Why is it that we run from making a simple decision that could change our whole live for the better? Why?

It’s simple, but it’s not easy. We all have the power within us to nurture ourselves, heal & become stronger & healthier than we once were. AGAIN, it’s not easy but it’s simple & it’s WORTH IT. At this point in my life I am struggling with multiple things.

I’m struggling to find myself, who I truly am inside. I’m not even sure when I lost myself, when my happiness disappeared into the darkness, when my self-confidence demolished, when I stopped doing the things I love….. It’s a heartbreaking thing to feel empty, alone, confused, lost into the unknown.

I’m struggling with thinking I need validation from anyone else to feel good about myself. I’m struggling with opinions of others, not as much as I used to though. Struggling with feeling guilty for the emotions I have. I believe the choice to stay or leave, ultimately determines whether we free ourselves or we suffer… I don’t know about y’all but I’m always worried about making the “right” decision.

I’m a big “what if” thinker…what if I realize I made the wrong choice & can’t fix it, what if it effects my kids in a negative way, what if everything falls apart? I’m so quick to ask the negative what ifs because of fear… But what if it changes your whole life in a positive way, what if it helps you find who you really are inside, what if your purpose is uncovered? We just need to slow down, be still & listen to what our soul is trying to tell us.

If we pay close enough attention I believe it’ll guide us in the right direction. It probably won’t be easy & it might even be a little painful, but wouldn’t you rather grow into a much better person & truly find happiness?

We need to fight through fear.

Forget about the fear we have inside & make a choice. Forget about the fear of what others might think about our choice….try harder or walk away. And get used to having that choice to make cause it will continue to pop up throughout your life. You have to figure out what’s worth it to you, who are you & what do YOU want-not anyone else. A good place to start is by loving yourself….

XoXo

WanderingGypsy

Why I Quit Dieting.

This may be the most important blog I ever write!

For months and months now I spend somewhere between 5 and 20 hours a week researching, studying and absorbing fitness and nutrition information. I want to be a personal trainer and life changer…and I’m on track to do that. 

Anyone who has ever tried to lose an ounce of fat knows that it’s not easy, hell…anyone who has tried to gain knows the same. The reason is because nutrition is the most important part of any kind of health plan. It’s also the hardest part. Who wants to limit their foods, cut out whole food groups (which is detrimental to your health!) extremely restrict calories and be hungry all the time?! NO ONE!! These things lead to binges, create even MORE unhealthy habits and cause a landslide of health problems. I promise, I know.

The first thing I did was step away from EVERY single “diet trick” I thought I knew. I sat down outside one day and started thinking about how my grandparents ate when they were young. I even visited with my grandma about it. 

     “We didn’t have breakfast tarts and oatmeal in a packet. We ate what we had and what was in the garden.” She said. 

BOOM! That is when it hit me. Eating isn’t for fun, it’s not a social affair…it’s simple sustainability. We have to eat to live, and we have to eat the right things to live well.

I knew from the get go I wasn’t getting enough protein. Around 50g a day for a girl who is pushing 6′ tall is laughable, especially since I lift heavy. My first change was ordering some quality protein and drinking that every morning. 

My second step was to log that into my lose it app.

Third step – forget about the damn calories for a second and focus on the macronutrients of what you’re eating. Depending on your body and your goals you need a specific ratio of protein, carbs and fat each day. Don’t get me wrong, the calories are important…but where they come from is even more important. I have known for a while that my body prefers fat over carbs for readily available energy so, after using an IIFYM (if it fits your macros {macronutrients – carbs, fat, protein}) calculator to figure out my macro count for my goals…I adjusted the fat and carbs a little and never looked back.

I know it may seem daunting to log everything you eat, but the beauty of it is you can eat WHATEVER you want, as long as you hit your macro goals. I usually have my day logged before lunch, so I am not bothered by it unless I need to make adjustments. It’s not about eating exactly 171g of protein, either. IIFYM is also referred to as flexible dieting, because it’s flexible! No Tupperware to carry around and no cancelling a lunch date because your girls are going somewhere that has food “you can’t eat”!! 

I’m not saying you should get all your macros from junk, but I am saying that having some now and then isn’t going to kill you…it’s gonna save you…or it will me at least. Keep in mind, about 90% of my diet is compromised of whole unprocessed foods and LOTS of veggies, but sometimes I indulge! As far as “clean eating” goes; yesterday I ate like shit. Nachos for lunch, a pop tart at like 4 and 2 glasses of wine…but with breakfast and dinner I hit my macros! 

I think for me IIFYM has taken the guesswork out of it. I am energized, I don’t feel guilty for what I eat, I can “cheat” and still reach my goals…and it’s DOABLE!

I quit dieting because I found IIFYM, and because I found it…I’m now reaching my goals!! 

So…I suggest you do a little research in IIFYM and give it a try. It has been a game changer…maybe even a life changer, for me. 

I plan to write another blog with tips and “how I do it” but I hope this inspires you for now!!

Feel free to send me questions, if I can’t answer them…I am sure I can send you to someone who can! OkieGirlFit@hotmail.com 

XoXo

OkieGirl

Some of my favorite flexible dieters on Instagram: @breilly728 @w_navafitness @betteraskrile @brittany_dawn_fitness @jessi_jean_fitness @theswolebarbie

He Does.

For women like me, who were raised to be tough willed and bull headed…sometimes it’s really hard to let yourself be vulnerable, to let yourself feel.

For YEARS I have hid my feelings deep inside, dealing with my demons on my own….unwilling to let anyone see me as anything but tough and happy.

I’m over that shit.

It took quite a while for my wonderful husband to break down my walls and show me that being a “girl” in front of him was okay. I still try not to cry in front of him, but if I do…he knows just what to do to comfort me. I still try and hide being upset, but he sees right through it, and usually does something weird to make me laugh.

There aren’t a lot of people in this world that can comfort you by simply being by your side…but he does.

There aren’t a lot of people who try and understand your pain instead of just putting it off…but he does.

There certainly aren’t a lot of men who listen to their wives ramble about their girly drama…but he does.

There aren’t a lot of men who step back and take the time to teach their wives whatever it is they want to learn…but he does.

He never mocks all my questions and is always teaching me new things and building me up.

He has never once told me I couldn’t do something, and always encourages me to try.

He believes in me when I don’t.

He is my best friend and my partner for life.

You really are my other half, babe…and I’d be so lost in this world without you.

Love never fails.

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xoxo

OkieGirl