Ha! I Win!

I often feel like I repeat myself in these self improvement blogs…

“I used to be really overweight and hated my body…”

“I have actually always hated my body, and I don’t even know why…”

“I went through some really rough times and found myself using alcohol and food as an unsuccessful coping mechanism…”

I guess maybe I do repeat them because they’re relevant to where I am, who I am and why I am doing what I’m doing.

At 13 years old in the 7th grade all I wanted to do was be a cheerleader. I had no interest in any other sports, but for some reason I just really wanted to cheer. Maybe it’s because making others smile, getting them excited and supporting them is what’s hard stamped in my DNA…who knows, but I wanted it.

…this should be the part where I tell you I tried out, got the spot and cheered throughout school; or maybe where I didn’t make it and kept trying until I got it, but it’s not.

I never tried out. I, at 13 years old, thought I was too big to be a cheerleader.

Before Facebook, and Instagram…before the #fitfam was a thing…back in the day when 17 Magazine was all that existed for young girls to compare to, I genuinely believed I was too big to cheer. I don’t know that I ever thought of myself as “fat” per say, but up until a few months ago I always thought I was huge. Like, I felt like I took up a lot of space…

It wasn’t until my wonderful boyfriend held his arms out in front of him one day and said “Look, THIS is how big you are…this is where my arms touch when I hug you!” that I realized how incredibly ‘small’ I actually was, that was a tiny circle. However, I still saw a great big girl in the mirror …over the past year I have fought hard to change my perception of myself, and it’s finally worked. With constant self improvement, positive self talk and a lot of love and support from the best man in the world, it’s finally worked.

It REALLY clicked for me when I received an email from a friend and new client a couple weeks ago. I’ve looked up to her killer physique since I met her! I was noting her starting measurements when I realized we are almost the exact same size! I was baffled, blown away, dumbfounded…I had NEVER thought I could possibly be the same size as her!

Then…it finally happened. When I went to the gym for the first time last week I saw little ole me in the mirror. I didn’t see “great big unhealthy me” …I saw every change, every new visible muscle, every vein that used to be hidden…

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This was the first time I’d seen this girl staring back at me…the first time I actually just saw me for what I am. It was a proud moment, a relief that I’d finally overcome that altered image…that I was finally winning this battle!

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I no longer struggle to fit in my clothes, I no longer feel like I take up so much space, I no longer see that “bigger” version of me. I see the hard work, the dedication, the years of struggles and the triumphs; the obstacles I’ve overcome and everything that’s brought me here.  I have a positive view on the next steps of my journey, and am proud to finally be healthy.

I’m finally winning this battle with myself, after all in the end it is just you vs. you ….

xoxo

OkieGirl

 

#RoadTo27 Day 2 – Change

Yesterday was day one of the newest DragonFit bootcamp round. I decided I was gong to fully commit this round, no half assing. I posted in our sisterhood group that I was going to do the “Mile For Time” challenge mentioned in our emails, and that I was going to crush my fastest mile. When I woke up this morning I had one thing on my mind – beating that time. I went to sleep thinking about it, I woke up thinking about it…I was going to do it.

I stretched and reached for my phone to check the time and the first thing I saw was a text from a girlfriend that said;

“Why am I afraid of change?!?!”

I sat there, phone in hand, trying to think of just what to tell her…

Because it’s scary! That’s why!!

What if you fail? What if you can’t do it? What if you lose friends? What if people mock you? What if…

…what if you succeed?

Over the last year I’ve made more changes than I can actually really wrap my head around. Small things like shaving off half my hair…and huge things like leaving my toxic marriage.

They were all scary, and they all caused exponential self growth. I’ve grown accustom to change, and I really like it – but it’s still very scary. I like it because I always grow and learn about myself, even if the change wasn’t necessarily “good”.

So, here’s my advice on change.

  • Embrace it, embrace the HELL out of it. It’s gonna be scary, but it’s going to be worth it.
  • Figure out what part of it is actually scaring you – for me, it’s often the fear of success.
  • Understand that every time you walk through a new door you’re going to lose people. Also understand that is perfectly okay. Most people we meet are just for certain phases of our lives, the ones who are meant to follow through each door will remain.
  • If there is someone who doesn’t support your change, they are NOT your tribe and you do not need them.
  • Seek positive energy and surround yourself with people who have similar goals and ambitions. It wasn’t until I did this that I really started to succeed.
  • Don’t worry about the thoughts of others. This is particularly true for lifestyle changes. When I started lifting like crazy and packing on muscle, I lost a lot of “friends” …that was my choice. No one get’s to decide what my body should look like but me!
  • LAUGH. When you hit a speed bump or completely screw up, laugh about it. Realize you’re human, find the light and just move forward.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help.Ever.
  • Find some consistency. Even if it doesn’t seem consistent, as long as you’re pushing towards your goals…you’re going to make the change permanent.
  • Don’t be afraid of failure. Failure is just in your head, there really are no failures…only lessons. Find the lesson and push forward. Readjust if you must, but keep moving towards the goal.
  • Get out of your own head. Don’t overthink it, just do it.

I think my last bit of advice on making change is this…

ALWAYS believe in yourself…and when you don’t, do it anyway.

I didn’t believe in myself when I stepped foot out to go on that run this morning. I knew there was NO way I was going to beat that time of 13:31…but I went out, and tried my damndest anyway.

I crushed it, by the way…by over 2 minutes.

You don’t always have to believe in yourself to create change, you just have to fight through the fear.

After all, on the other side of fear lies freedom.

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xoxo

OkieGirl

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So You Wanna Lose Some Weight?

So you wanna lose some weight, get healthy, build some muscle and lose some fat?

You say you’ve tried everything and nothing works…the fat just won’t come off. You’ve tried all the pills and quick fixes, you’ve worked out and ate healthy..there must just be something wrong with you.

Well, there is.

You’re lying to yourself.

How do I know? Because I’ve done it.

I’ve lied to myself about how much effort I was actually putting into workouts, and how healthy I was actually eating. I wanted an excuse as to why I was overweight other than I had done it to myself.

There isn’t one.

For exactly one month I have been 100% on point with my diet and have been consistent in my workouts. It’s sad for me to say this is the longest I’ve stuck to something…and guess what; I’m seeing the results I want!

I’m down 13 pounds and numerous inches in just this short time. My food selection is really limited right now, but that’s what I needed to make the change…and I don’t even feel deprived because it’s all SO good.

My workouts are crazy, fun and addictive…and it’s so amazing watching my body change.

My skin is clear, my brain fog is gone, my anger and anxiety have completely disappeared and I haven’t had a headache in a month. I am happier, I sleep better, I have SO much more energy and I don’t crash in the  afternoon. All my digestive issues have worked themselves out and my hair is even growing faster…oh yeah, and the fat loss and muscle gain is pretty great. On top of all that my body aches and joint pain is gone as well…WHY did it take me so long to really give this an honest try?

At this point…there is no going back. There is no more fast food or processed shit for this girl, and DAMN sure no gluten! I feel like I need to write my body a sincere apology for treating it so poorly for so long.

Most people don’t actually know how good they’re designed to feel.

So, here’s my advice.

Stop looking for that quick fix.

Cut out gluten, dairy and EVERY single processed food or drink, get in at least 3 GOOD workouts a week…and give that an HONEST effort for 4 weeks and then see how you feel.

Is it an easy change? HELL no…but it’s been the absolute best thing I’ve ever done…and I’ll never be the person I used to be because of it.

I will say…it’s so much easier if you have a partner (in my case, my wonderful husband). Sometimes you just need to whine about how much you really want that Red Lobster biscuit…and have someone who understands.

Also – it’s important to make it fun. Don’t think of it as something restrictive or a short term diet..look at it as a permanent change. Have little fitness contests with your partner in crime, and keep laughing through the struggles.

If you can make it 4 weeks…you can make it a lifetime.

You ARE worth it.

If you don’t have a partner…EMAIL ME! I’ll be your P.I.C!!

This life is to beautiful to waste it in pain and unhappy.

So, you get out there and KILL IT!

xoxo

OkieGirl

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Live Fit & Healthy.

As I was sitting on my bed last night writing down some goals and working on a new 21 day transformation program I’ll be doing…a lot of things occurred to me.

  • I’m sure not where I thought I’d be when I turned 26.
    • In some ways I’m proud of that, in others I’ve let myself down.
  • Making changes isn’t easy, but even small changes lead to big results with enough time.
  • I can’t do this on my own.
  • My life depends on this change.

Now that I’ve figured that out, I should be good to go right?

Right…that’s what I’ve said 1,000 times. I’ve “started” to get fit and healthy 1,000 times…I don’t even think I’m exaggerating!

But, this time I did one thing different.

I asked for help, for someone to join me…not just anyone though; my rock, my best friend, my everyday hero, my love, my biggest supporter…my husband.

You see, he’s never let me fail when I asked him for help.

He’s always pushed and supported me in ANY endeavor I’ve ever attempted (and believe me, there have been a LOT of them)….he has stood right beside me through every trial, every success and every failure!

I decided a few days before my 26th birthday that I wanted this year to be different. I don’t want to turn 27 next October, 11th and think…damn, I let another year get away! I want to look back and think “Look at all the incredible things we did this year!” I want to get healthy, the healthiest I have ever been…and I want to inspire others to do the same. I want to take adventures, and risks, and do things that scare me. I want to spend as much time as I can in nature, and learning new things. I want to hunt, and fish, and play in the mud any chance I get…and I want to take every tiny step I can to get a little bit closer to my ultimate goal.

I think as young people we need to realize that our health must come first. Our bodies deserve to run at peak levels. They deserve to be fueled with preservative and hormone free foods that actually benefit our well-being.

You don’t put fake gas in your car when you want it to run it’s best, now do you? So why would you put fake food in your body and expect premium results?

I think we over complicate things. We all want that “quick fix” …but no one really gives a damn about their health. Sit back and think about all the SHIT you’re putting into your body before you use another quick fix product…and then ask yourself why you’re overweight and unhealthy.

You do realize it’s YOUR fault, right? You are the one responsible for your body and taking care of it. The time to start giving a damn is now. Clean up your diet, cut out gluten and processed JUNK, stop drinking chemical concoctions (all of these lead to inflammation in the gut and body – by the way), eat single ingredient foods…get an accountability partner …and MOVE YOUR ASS!! I guarantee you things will begin to change.

That’s not just a note to you, it’s a note to me as well.

I plan on blogging throughout this venture…to share with you our ups and downs, and our progress in health, fitness and life.

I’ll try and share my favorite recipes and things that make it all easier (and cheaper) for us to live fit & healthy…after all, this is a lifestyle change not a quick fix.

Stay motivated, my friends…

xoxo

OkieGirl

Why I Quit Dieting.

This may be the most important blog I ever write!

For months and months now I spend somewhere between 5 and 20 hours a week researching, studying and absorbing fitness and nutrition information. I want to be a personal trainer and life changer…and I’m on track to do that. 

Anyone who has ever tried to lose an ounce of fat knows that it’s not easy, hell…anyone who has tried to gain knows the same. The reason is because nutrition is the most important part of any kind of health plan. It’s also the hardest part. Who wants to limit their foods, cut out whole food groups (which is detrimental to your health!) extremely restrict calories and be hungry all the time?! NO ONE!! These things lead to binges, create even MORE unhealthy habits and cause a landslide of health problems. I promise, I know.

The first thing I did was step away from EVERY single “diet trick” I thought I knew. I sat down outside one day and started thinking about how my grandparents ate when they were young. I even visited with my grandma about it. 

     “We didn’t have breakfast tarts and oatmeal in a packet. We ate what we had and what was in the garden.” She said. 

BOOM! That is when it hit me. Eating isn’t for fun, it’s not a social affair…it’s simple sustainability. We have to eat to live, and we have to eat the right things to live well.

I knew from the get go I wasn’t getting enough protein. Around 50g a day for a girl who is pushing 6′ tall is laughable, especially since I lift heavy. My first change was ordering some quality protein and drinking that every morning. 

My second step was to log that into my lose it app.

Third step – forget about the damn calories for a second and focus on the macronutrients of what you’re eating. Depending on your body and your goals you need a specific ratio of protein, carbs and fat each day. Don’t get me wrong, the calories are important…but where they come from is even more important. I have known for a while that my body prefers fat over carbs for readily available energy so, after using an IIFYM (if it fits your macros {macronutrients – carbs, fat, protein}) calculator to figure out my macro count for my goals…I adjusted the fat and carbs a little and never looked back.

I know it may seem daunting to log everything you eat, but the beauty of it is you can eat WHATEVER you want, as long as you hit your macro goals. I usually have my day logged before lunch, so I am not bothered by it unless I need to make adjustments. It’s not about eating exactly 171g of protein, either. IIFYM is also referred to as flexible dieting, because it’s flexible! No Tupperware to carry around and no cancelling a lunch date because your girls are going somewhere that has food “you can’t eat”!! 

I’m not saying you should get all your macros from junk, but I am saying that having some now and then isn’t going to kill you…it’s gonna save you…or it will me at least. Keep in mind, about 90% of my diet is compromised of whole unprocessed foods and LOTS of veggies, but sometimes I indulge! As far as “clean eating” goes; yesterday I ate like shit. Nachos for lunch, a pop tart at like 4 and 2 glasses of wine…but with breakfast and dinner I hit my macros! 

I think for me IIFYM has taken the guesswork out of it. I am energized, I don’t feel guilty for what I eat, I can “cheat” and still reach my goals…and it’s DOABLE!

I quit dieting because I found IIFYM, and because I found it…I’m now reaching my goals!! 

So…I suggest you do a little research in IIFYM and give it a try. It has been a game changer…maybe even a life changer, for me. 

I plan to write another blog with tips and “how I do it” but I hope this inspires you for now!!

Feel free to send me questions, if I can’t answer them…I am sure I can send you to someone who can! OkieGirlFit@hotmail.com 

XoXo

OkieGirl

Some of my favorite flexible dieters on Instagram: @breilly728 @w_navafitness @betteraskrile @brittany_dawn_fitness @jessi_jean_fitness @theswolebarbie

So Long, 20Fourteen.

As I sit here today, piddling with some things at the office I realized something;

I think I’m growing up.

The past month as been interesting as far as personal growth and like …life awareness for me.

I’ve continued to make decisions based on what I want, MY future and well being and just doing things that make me happy.

Sounds kinda selfish, I guess…but I don’t feel bad about it.

In 25 years of living with myself I’ve learned a lot about me…and one of my biggest flaws and greatest assets are one in the same. I care too much about other people and helping them achieve and realize greatness within themselves.

It’s a flaw because in doing this I shove myself to the back and don’t worry about me.

WELL – 2015 brings a new opportunity to better myself and my life.

I have a lot of goals, but something I wish to focus on more than anything is simply taking care of myself mentally, physically and spiritually.

I’ve come to realize that those I love and care for won’t suffer for this, but will benefit. If I’m in my best health and frame of mind I can help them realize their greatness even better!! See how I tricked myself into taking better care of me by assuming it will benefit others?

I guess I’m pretty selfless…but making others happy truly is what makes me happy. It’s what I was born to do.

I was created with broad shoulders and a strong back so I can hold the weight of many things….and I’m thankful for that.

I’ve really enjoyed this past year with all my friends and family and I just can’t wait for all the amazing things 2015 will bring us!

Happy New Year, all!

 

xoxo

 

OkieGirl