#RoadTo27 Day 2 – Change

Yesterday was day one of the newest DragonFit bootcamp round. I decided I was gong to fully commit this round, no half assing. I posted in our sisterhood group that I was going to do the “Mile For Time” challenge mentioned in our emails, and that I was going to crush my fastest mile. When I woke up this morning I had one thing on my mind – beating that time. I went to sleep thinking about it, I woke up thinking about it…I was going to do it.

I stretched and reached for my phone to check the time and the first thing I saw was a text from a girlfriend that said;

“Why am I afraid of change?!?!”

I sat there, phone in hand, trying to think of just what to tell her…

Because it’s scary! That’s why!!

What if you fail? What if you can’t do it? What if you lose friends? What if people mock you? What if…

…what if you succeed?

Over the last year I’ve made more changes than I can actually really wrap my head around. Small things like shaving off half my hair…and huge things like leaving my toxic marriage.

They were all scary, and they all caused exponential self growth. I’ve grown accustom to change, and I really like it – but it’s still very scary. I like it because I always grow and learn about myself, even if the change wasn’t necessarily “good”.

So, here’s my advice on change.

  • Embrace it, embrace the HELL out of it. It’s gonna be scary, but it’s going to be worth it.
  • Figure out what part of it is actually scaring you – for me, it’s often the fear of success.
  • Understand that every time you walk through a new door you’re going to lose people. Also understand that is perfectly okay. Most people we meet are just for certain phases of our lives, the ones who are meant to follow through each door will remain.
  • If there is someone who doesn’t support your change, they are NOT your tribe and you do not need them.
  • Seek positive energy and surround yourself with people who have similar goals and ambitions. It wasn’t until I did this that I really started to succeed.
  • Don’t worry about the thoughts of others. This is particularly true for lifestyle changes. When I started lifting like crazy and packing on muscle, I lost a lot of “friends” …that was my choice. No one get’s to decide what my body should look like but me!
  • LAUGH. When you hit a speed bump or completely screw up, laugh about it. Realize you’re human, find the light and just move forward.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help.Ever.
  • Find some consistency. Even if it doesn’t seem consistent, as long as you’re pushing towards your goals…you’re going to make the change permanent.
  • Don’t be afraid of failure. Failure is just in your head, there really are no failures…only lessons. Find the lesson and push forward. Readjust if you must, but keep moving towards the goal.
  • Get out of your own head. Don’t overthink it, just do it.

I think my last bit of advice on making change is this…

ALWAYS believe in yourself…and when you don’t, do it anyway.

I didn’t believe in myself when I stepped foot out to go on that run this morning. I knew there was NO way I was going to beat that time of 13:31…but I went out, and tried my damndest anyway.

I crushed it, by the way…by over 2 minutes.

You don’t always have to believe in yourself to create change, you just have to fight through the fear.

After all, on the other side of fear lies freedom.

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xoxo

OkieGirl

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Unplug.

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Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been doing some serious soul searching.

Maybe it’s because this is my last week of being 25…or maybe it’s because I’m sick of living “the way I’m supposed to”.

It seems like society has painted a completely unrealistic idea of what a woman is “supposed to be”. We are supposed to dress nice, fix our hair, do our makeup and always be on point. We’re supposed to drive nice cars, raise nice families, sip our wine and never cuss. We’re “SUPPOSED” to be stay-at-home-mom’s or climbing the corporate ladder.

…but WHY?

What is SO wrong with a girl who can take care of herself? Why is it SO unsuitable for a girl to enjoy hunting, fishing and playing in the mud? Why is it frowned upon for a lady to turn a wrench and get her hands greasy, or work her ass off in the oilfield, or be skilled in running large equipment? And just why is it SO wrong for a woman to choose to not have children?

I guess I probably sound like some sort of feminist or something, but I wouldn’t really say that.

I believe WOMEN are the ones who’ve given us these ridiculous stereotypes. They are the ones who are offended by the women like me who CAN get along just fine in a mans world. I would never fight for some sort of “equality” …I just want to be recognized for working my ass of just like the next guy.

BUT…back to wherever I was going with this.

In realizing that I’m 100% the opposite of what society expects me to be..I came to realize something…that it’s completely okay!

I no longer wish to appease anyone and their expectations of a woman.

I want people to continue to say “I think it’s so weird that you do that.”

I want people to continue to bring up the fact that I’m different…because different is good, period. I want to start conversations and be an advocate of women learning to do shit they’re “not supposed to know” …hell, maybe I’ll put on a camp.

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I’m just so over living in this social media run world..and plan to completely unplug from it. I don’t want or need a Facebook, but got one because I was convinced It’d help my business…it hasn’t. I am ready to go back to my roots. Spending hours upon hours outside, in nature…doing the things I love to do. Sure, I still have to go to work…but I don’t have to come home, turn on a TV, play on my phone and “connect” constantly.

I think if we’d all take a little more time getting to know ourselves and this absolutely incredible world we live in…we’d be a lot more humble about all the stuff we have.

Sit back for a minute and think about that.

UNPLUG and LIVE your LIFE…

Do the thing you want to do.

Go to the freaking gym and eat right.

GET OUTSIDE.

Go on adventures.

Find true love.

Meet new people.

LAUGH.EVERY.DAY!

Life is what you make it people, so make it one big incredible voyage that’s worth talking about.

Be in the moment…

…just live.

xoxo

OkieGirl

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It’s a lifestyle, not a dress code.

I’d like to take you back to 1999, when I was 10 years old.

Now, mind you, I don’t know exactly what I was doing at 10…but I have a fairly good idea!

On a Friday after school you could find me outside, rummaging around in the trees, making stuff (tire swings, agility courses for my dogs, a fort, etc.) playing with the dogs, walking to the pond, fishing, or playing with a friend…OUTSIDE.

When fall would come I couldn’t wait for enough leaves to fall to rake up the biggest pile you have EVER seen; just to barrel it down and do it again.

Fall would also bring deer season, and some of the BEST times with my Dad. Hell, every time with my Dad is a great time.

The winter would find me outside in a snow suit, rolling around in the snow…hooking my dogs up to a sled and throwing a ball, sledding behind the four-wheeler…and getting in trouble for wearing flip flops.

My summers growing up were spent at the farm; swimming, fishing, camping, cooking and enjoying every sunset and every star…following my Dad around, asking him a MILLION questions.

There wasn’t a weekend growing up that I didn’t spend with him, doing something outside. It may have just been driving around the dirt roads, looking at the sights. It could have been fishing for crawdads, or catfish. It was the early mornings waking up to freeze our asses off and go sit in a deer stand. We may have been riding around on the four-wheeler, chasing and shooting armadillos…or blazing a new trail through the farm, but we were always doing something.

I learned so many things so young.

I caught my first big bass (6.5lbs) when I was 5. By myself, thank you!

I pulled my first big catfish (57lbs) off the line when I was around 13.

I shot my first deer when I was probably about 12.

I’ve been an outdoorsman since I could walk, and that will never change.

I still fish, hunt, hike, build, dirt road, camp, swim in the ponds….and probably always will.

Anyone can get online and buy a pair of boots and a camo shirt and call themselves country…but country is something you’re born into and raised in. It’s a lifestyle, not a dress code. It’s who you are inside and out. It’s values and appreciation for people, animals, and the land that the good Lord has blessed us with.

I will NEVER tire sharing my lifestyle with those who have never been blessed to live it.

And I will ALWAYS be exactly who I’ve always been.

Forever.

xoxo

-Okie Girl

Let The Adventures Begin!

Today is a new day, a good day, an adventure filled day!

Today is the day I start this new blog.

This blog will allow me to share my journeys and adventures, triumphs and turmoil, successes and failures…all in the name of living to the fullest.

This life is short, and tomorrow is not promised…so every day must be an adventure!

 

I look forward to sharing my adventures with you all!

 

xoxo!

-Okie Girl