#RoadTo27 Day 2 – Change

Yesterday was day one of the newest DragonFit bootcamp round. I decided I was gong to fully commit this round, no half assing. I posted in our sisterhood group that I was going to do the “Mile For Time” challenge mentioned in our emails, and that I was going to crush my fastest mile. When I woke up this morning I had one thing on my mind – beating that time. I went to sleep thinking about it, I woke up thinking about it…I was going to do it.

I stretched and reached for my phone to check the time and the first thing I saw was a text from a girlfriend that said;

“Why am I afraid of change?!?!”

I sat there, phone in hand, trying to think of just what to tell her…

Because it’s scary! That’s why!!

What if you fail? What if you can’t do it? What if you lose friends? What if people mock you? What if…

…what if you succeed?

Over the last year I’ve made more changes than I can actually really wrap my head around. Small things like shaving off half my hair…and huge things like leaving my toxic marriage.

They were all scary, and they all caused exponential self growth. I’ve grown accustom to change, and I really like it – but it’s still very scary. I like it because I always grow and learn about myself, even if the change wasn’t necessarily “good”.

So, here’s my advice on change.

  • Embrace it, embrace the HELL out of it. It’s gonna be scary, but it’s going to be worth it.
  • Figure out what part of it is actually scaring you – for me, it’s often the fear of success.
  • Understand that every time you walk through a new door you’re going to lose people. Also understand that is perfectly okay. Most people we meet are just for certain phases of our lives, the ones who are meant to follow through each door will remain.
  • If there is someone who doesn’t support your change, they are NOT your tribe and you do not need them.
  • Seek positive energy and surround yourself with people who have similar goals and ambitions. It wasn’t until I did this that I really started to succeed.
  • Don’t worry about the thoughts of others. This is particularly true for lifestyle changes. When I started lifting like crazy and packing on muscle, I lost a lot of “friends” …that was my choice. No one get’s to decide what my body should look like but me!
  • LAUGH. When you hit a speed bump or completely screw up, laugh about it. Realize you’re human, find the light and just move forward.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help.Ever.
  • Find some consistency. Even if it doesn’t seem consistent, as long as you’re pushing towards your goals…you’re going to make the change permanent.
  • Don’t be afraid of failure. Failure is just in your head, there really are no failures…only lessons. Find the lesson and push forward. Readjust if you must, but keep moving towards the goal.
  • Get out of your own head. Don’t overthink it, just do it.

I think my last bit of advice on making change is this…

ALWAYS believe in yourself…and when you don’t, do it anyway.

I didn’t believe in myself when I stepped foot out to go on that run this morning. I knew there was NO way I was going to beat that time of 13:31…but I went out, and tried my damndest anyway.

I crushed it, by the way…by over 2 minutes.

You don’t always have to believe in yourself to create change, you just have to fight through the fear.

After all, on the other side of fear lies freedom.

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xoxo

OkieGirl

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Unplug.

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Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been doing some serious soul searching.

Maybe it’s because this is my last week of being 25…or maybe it’s because I’m sick of living “the way I’m supposed to”.

It seems like society has painted a completely unrealistic idea of what a woman is “supposed to be”. We are supposed to dress nice, fix our hair, do our makeup and always be on point. We’re supposed to drive nice cars, raise nice families, sip our wine and never cuss. We’re “SUPPOSED” to be stay-at-home-mom’s or climbing the corporate ladder.

…but WHY?

What is SO wrong with a girl who can take care of herself? Why is it SO unsuitable for a girl to enjoy hunting, fishing and playing in the mud? Why is it frowned upon for a lady to turn a wrench and get her hands greasy, or work her ass off in the oilfield, or be skilled in running large equipment? And just why is it SO wrong for a woman to choose to not have children?

I guess I probably sound like some sort of feminist or something, but I wouldn’t really say that.

I believe WOMEN are the ones who’ve given us these ridiculous stereotypes. They are the ones who are offended by the women like me who CAN get along just fine in a mans world. I would never fight for some sort of “equality” …I just want to be recognized for working my ass of just like the next guy.

BUT…back to wherever I was going with this.

In realizing that I’m 100% the opposite of what society expects me to be..I came to realize something…that it’s completely okay!

I no longer wish to appease anyone and their expectations of a woman.

I want people to continue to say “I think it’s so weird that you do that.”

I want people to continue to bring up the fact that I’m different…because different is good, period. I want to start conversations and be an advocate of women learning to do shit they’re “not supposed to know” …hell, maybe I’ll put on a camp.

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I’m just so over living in this social media run world..and plan to completely unplug from it. I don’t want or need a Facebook, but got one because I was convinced It’d help my business…it hasn’t. I am ready to go back to my roots. Spending hours upon hours outside, in nature…doing the things I love to do. Sure, I still have to go to work…but I don’t have to come home, turn on a TV, play on my phone and “connect” constantly.

I think if we’d all take a little more time getting to know ourselves and this absolutely incredible world we live in…we’d be a lot more humble about all the stuff we have.

Sit back for a minute and think about that.

UNPLUG and LIVE your LIFE…

Do the thing you want to do.

Go to the freaking gym and eat right.

GET OUTSIDE.

Go on adventures.

Find true love.

Meet new people.

LAUGH.EVERY.DAY!

Life is what you make it people, so make it one big incredible voyage that’s worth talking about.

Be in the moment…

…just live.

xoxo

OkieGirl

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Measured In Character. 

You know what? At the end of the day we are all just people…just human beings, nothing more. 

We all have feelings, desires, hopes, dreams and struggles!

Certainly there are people that are deemed more successful than others – but how is that measured? Money? Things? …it should be measured in character. 

The most successful and beautiful people to me are those who are humble, kind and real. Those who can be true to themselves even in the limelight. 

I want to know people who have walked through hell, and came out the other side with knew knowledge and hope…not people who rode coat tails to the top.

I want to be someone who can help push someone through that walk. I think it’s so important to be kind and supportive to those you admire, and even those you don’t. You don’t know what someone is going through – no matter who they are; 

WE. ALL. STRUGGLE! 

Surround yourself with positive and uplifting likeminded people and you will be successful. 

Dream big, work hard, don’t make excuses and never look back! 

XoXo

OkieGirl

You ARE Enough.

I’m too fat.

I’m too thin.

My arms are flabby.

My thighs are too big.

I am built like a man.

I’m built like a stick.

I’m too heavy.

My butt is too big.

My butt is too small.

My boobs are uneven.

I’m not tan enough.

My hair isn’t long enough.

I’m not pretty enough.

I’m not enough.

Aren’t you heartbroken for the girls saying these things about themselves?

Don’t you say something like, “No you’re not, you’re beautiful and perfect and uniquely you!”

BUT aren’t you also guilty of saying these things to yourself? Maybe not out loud and maybe you don’t even realize you do it. When you are scrolling through your social media feed and you see a girl with a body you desire, what kind of thoughts run through your head?

Do you put yourself down because you don’t look like her? Do you say to yourself “I wish my butt looked that good” or “I wish my tummy was that thin” do you fill your head full of negative thoughts about how you will “never look that good”?? I know I was once guilty of this…and I know SO many of us are.

It’s hard not to desire what we see as a perfect body, or goal body, ESPECIALLY when we are working on ours. BUT it’s so, SO , sooo important to stay positive about your body image.

You have to love your body, it’s the only one you have! Instead of being envious of the girls you see – take pride in your OWN body and how it will look when you reach your goals. No one is perfect. Even the most fit girls have demons and body issues. I know the more weight I lose, the more critical I get of my body! It’s a vicious cycle and I have to stop and say, “NO! look how far you’ve come”.

It’s all a mind game…a mind game with yourself. You have to wake up each morning and think positive. You have to look in the mirror and refuse to pick yourself apart. You have to remember that your body is unique to only you. You need to focus on creating the best version of yourself – mentally and physically, not another version of someone else.

It’s hard to find yourself…but it’s even harder if you are constantly trying to be someone else.  Just do what makes you happy, try everything, go on adventures and LOVE yourself unconditionally.

You are beautiful.

You are important.

You matter.

You’re a freaking rockstar!!

xoxo

OkieGirl

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