Measured In Character. 

You know what? At the end of the day we are all just people…just human beings, nothing more. 

We all have feelings, desires, hopes, dreams and struggles!

Certainly there are people that are deemed more successful than others – but how is that measured? Money? Things? …it should be measured in character. 

The most successful and beautiful people to me are those who are humble, kind and real. Those who can be true to themselves even in the limelight. 

I want to know people who have walked through hell, and came out the other side with knew knowledge and hope…not people who rode coat tails to the top.

I want to be someone who can help push someone through that walk. I think it’s so important to be kind and supportive to those you admire, and even those you don’t. You don’t know what someone is going through – no matter who they are; 

WE. ALL. STRUGGLE! 

Surround yourself with positive and uplifting likeminded people and you will be successful. 

Dream big, work hard, don’t make excuses and never look back! 

XoXo

OkieGirl

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Completely Or Not At All. { A Wandering Gypsy Post}

Try harder or walk away-that’s it, those are the choices. As I sit here & read this quote over & over in my head I start to feel as if I’m suffocating.

I haven’t been making these decisions in my life in quite some time, I’ve just been sitting here-existing. This goes for just about anything in our lives…..loving ourselves, loving a spouse, a family member, pursuing your dream or passion.

Have y’all heard the saying “there’s only one way to do everything, completely or not at all”? There is so much truth to that, when did we start thinking it was okay to half-ass something? What if a doctor half-assed a surgery he had to do?

What if a pilot half-assed flying the plane? Whatever we do, we should give it our all. We can choose to continue to give our all in our marriage, friendship, job, whatever it may be. Guys, WE CHOOSE! We choose to wake up & love ourselves, to not suffer.

Why is it that we make more stress & struggle for ourselves? Why is it that we run from making a simple decision that could change our whole live for the better? Why?

It’s simple, but it’s not easy. We all have the power within us to nurture ourselves, heal & become stronger & healthier than we once were. AGAIN, it’s not easy but it’s simple & it’s WORTH IT. At this point in my life I am struggling with multiple things.

I’m struggling to find myself, who I truly am inside. I’m not even sure when I lost myself, when my happiness disappeared into the darkness, when my self-confidence demolished, when I stopped doing the things I love….. It’s a heartbreaking thing to feel empty, alone, confused, lost into the unknown.

I’m struggling with thinking I need validation from anyone else to feel good about myself. I’m struggling with opinions of others, not as much as I used to though. Struggling with feeling guilty for the emotions I have. I believe the choice to stay or leave, ultimately determines whether we free ourselves or we suffer… I don’t know about y’all but I’m always worried about making the “right” decision.

I’m a big “what if” thinker…what if I realize I made the wrong choice & can’t fix it, what if it effects my kids in a negative way, what if everything falls apart? I’m so quick to ask the negative what ifs because of fear… But what if it changes your whole life in a positive way, what if it helps you find who you really are inside, what if your purpose is uncovered? We just need to slow down, be still & listen to what our soul is trying to tell us.

If we pay close enough attention I believe it’ll guide us in the right direction. It probably won’t be easy & it might even be a little painful, but wouldn’t you rather grow into a much better person & truly find happiness?

We need to fight through fear.

Forget about the fear we have inside & make a choice. Forget about the fear of what others might think about our choice….try harder or walk away. And get used to having that choice to make cause it will continue to pop up throughout your life. You have to figure out what’s worth it to you, who are you & what do YOU want-not anyone else. A good place to start is by loving yourself….

XoXo

WanderingGypsy

Sometimes Livin’ A Country Life Is Hard.

I could sit here and write for hours on end as to why I love living in the country, away from town, and doing things the way we do. I have lived this way for 20 years now, and that will never change. 

With the good comes the bad, though, especially with raising your own livestock. I’m sure Rancher Girl at A Building We Shall Go blog can attest to this, as she has raised cattle all her life! I have had horses for most of mine, and some chickens back in the day…but we have just recently dove into things head first. We currently have 3 feeder pigs (Bacon, Pork Chop and Linda) that we are finishing out before we take them to town to have  them turned into consumable products.

*Maybe if I leave out key words the crazy people won’t harass me! Haha*

Now, you should know that I am an animal lover. I love our little pigs and enjoy taking care of them. They’re friendly and are always happy to see me…but they have a job on our little ranch, and that job is to sustain our healthy lifestyle. Even though they will be in the freezer in a few weeks, there is no reason for me to treat them as anything other than living things. They’re enjoying their lives and hanging out getting fat…and love their daily shower. I think happy animals probably taste better.

Anyway! We have made the decision to start getting our meat this way so we know exactly where it comes from. It’s important to me to know what I’m putting into my body, and it should be to you too! It’s something I will look forward to each year! We put a lot of time and a substantial amount of funds into these kids, so they’re prized here on the little ranch. 

So here is the hard part…

I was sittin on the new back deck this morning drinking my protein shake when I heard a dog parking in the direction of our hog pens. This isn’t something I was going to wait out, so I found my flip flops and ran down there. Luckily, they were unharmed and not too stirred up (Remy dog is Pork Chops bestie)…but off ran a dog into the pasture. I know the dog, she visits often…and is large enough to do some serious damage to the smaller pigs. This is hard because you’re faced with protecting your livelihood …or your neighbors stupid dog. I would much rather punish the neighbor, and this poses another hard part…the neighbor talk! Haha! 

Luckily, our neighbor is pretty cool and will probably try harder to keep his dog in check, but the point is; no matter how much you may love dogs, and how much your morals may say “don’t do it” when it comes to protecting your livelihood and sustaining your family…you have to be willing to do whatever it takes. I’m just glad I didn’t have to anything crazy this morning. 

Maybe I should offer to teach my neighbors how to train their dogs? 

I also think Bacon would tear a dog in half…another problem? Yes and no. 

Moral of this shamble of rambles: If you live in the country, train your dogs or get an electric barrier fence…and if they run and harass livestock, be prepared to suffer the consequences.

XoXo

OkieGirl 

You ARE Enough.

I’m too fat.

I’m too thin.

My arms are flabby.

My thighs are too big.

I am built like a man.

I’m built like a stick.

I’m too heavy.

My butt is too big.

My butt is too small.

My boobs are uneven.

I’m not tan enough.

My hair isn’t long enough.

I’m not pretty enough.

I’m not enough.

Aren’t you heartbroken for the girls saying these things about themselves?

Don’t you say something like, “No you’re not, you’re beautiful and perfect and uniquely you!”

BUT aren’t you also guilty of saying these things to yourself? Maybe not out loud and maybe you don’t even realize you do it. When you are scrolling through your social media feed and you see a girl with a body you desire, what kind of thoughts run through your head?

Do you put yourself down because you don’t look like her? Do you say to yourself “I wish my butt looked that good” or “I wish my tummy was that thin” do you fill your head full of negative thoughts about how you will “never look that good”?? I know I was once guilty of this…and I know SO many of us are.

It’s hard not to desire what we see as a perfect body, or goal body, ESPECIALLY when we are working on ours. BUT it’s so, SO , sooo important to stay positive about your body image.

You have to love your body, it’s the only one you have! Instead of being envious of the girls you see – take pride in your OWN body and how it will look when you reach your goals. No one is perfect. Even the most fit girls have demons and body issues. I know the more weight I lose, the more critical I get of my body! It’s a vicious cycle and I have to stop and say, “NO! look how far you’ve come”.

It’s all a mind game…a mind game with yourself. You have to wake up each morning and think positive. You have to look in the mirror and refuse to pick yourself apart. You have to remember that your body is unique to only you. You need to focus on creating the best version of yourself – mentally and physically, not another version of someone else.

It’s hard to find yourself…but it’s even harder if you are constantly trying to be someone else.  Just do what makes you happy, try everything, go on adventures and LOVE yourself unconditionally.

You are beautiful.

You are important.

You matter.

You’re a freaking rockstar!!

xoxo

OkieGirl

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Why I Quit Dieting.

This may be the most important blog I ever write!

For months and months now I spend somewhere between 5 and 20 hours a week researching, studying and absorbing fitness and nutrition information. I want to be a personal trainer and life changer…and I’m on track to do that. 

Anyone who has ever tried to lose an ounce of fat knows that it’s not easy, hell…anyone who has tried to gain knows the same. The reason is because nutrition is the most important part of any kind of health plan. It’s also the hardest part. Who wants to limit their foods, cut out whole food groups (which is detrimental to your health!) extremely restrict calories and be hungry all the time?! NO ONE!! These things lead to binges, create even MORE unhealthy habits and cause a landslide of health problems. I promise, I know.

The first thing I did was step away from EVERY single “diet trick” I thought I knew. I sat down outside one day and started thinking about how my grandparents ate when they were young. I even visited with my grandma about it. 

     “We didn’t have breakfast tarts and oatmeal in a packet. We ate what we had and what was in the garden.” She said. 

BOOM! That is when it hit me. Eating isn’t for fun, it’s not a social affair…it’s simple sustainability. We have to eat to live, and we have to eat the right things to live well.

I knew from the get go I wasn’t getting enough protein. Around 50g a day for a girl who is pushing 6′ tall is laughable, especially since I lift heavy. My first change was ordering some quality protein and drinking that every morning. 

My second step was to log that into my lose it app.

Third step – forget about the damn calories for a second and focus on the macronutrients of what you’re eating. Depending on your body and your goals you need a specific ratio of protein, carbs and fat each day. Don’t get me wrong, the calories are important…but where they come from is even more important. I have known for a while that my body prefers fat over carbs for readily available energy so, after using an IIFYM (if it fits your macros {macronutrients – carbs, fat, protein}) calculator to figure out my macro count for my goals…I adjusted the fat and carbs a little and never looked back.

I know it may seem daunting to log everything you eat, but the beauty of it is you can eat WHATEVER you want, as long as you hit your macro goals. I usually have my day logged before lunch, so I am not bothered by it unless I need to make adjustments. It’s not about eating exactly 171g of protein, either. IIFYM is also referred to as flexible dieting, because it’s flexible! No Tupperware to carry around and no cancelling a lunch date because your girls are going somewhere that has food “you can’t eat”!! 

I’m not saying you should get all your macros from junk, but I am saying that having some now and then isn’t going to kill you…it’s gonna save you…or it will me at least. Keep in mind, about 90% of my diet is compromised of whole unprocessed foods and LOTS of veggies, but sometimes I indulge! As far as “clean eating” goes; yesterday I ate like shit. Nachos for lunch, a pop tart at like 4 and 2 glasses of wine…but with breakfast and dinner I hit my macros! 

I think for me IIFYM has taken the guesswork out of it. I am energized, I don’t feel guilty for what I eat, I can “cheat” and still reach my goals…and it’s DOABLE!

I quit dieting because I found IIFYM, and because I found it…I’m now reaching my goals!! 

So…I suggest you do a little research in IIFYM and give it a try. It has been a game changer…maybe even a life changer, for me. 

I plan to write another blog with tips and “how I do it” but I hope this inspires you for now!!

Feel free to send me questions, if I can’t answer them…I am sure I can send you to someone who can! OkieGirlFit@hotmail.com 

XoXo

OkieGirl

Some of my favorite flexible dieters on Instagram: @breilly728 @w_navafitness @betteraskrile @brittany_dawn_fitness @jessi_jean_fitness @theswolebarbie

He Does.

For women like me, who were raised to be tough willed and bull headed…sometimes it’s really hard to let yourself be vulnerable, to let yourself feel.

For YEARS I have hid my feelings deep inside, dealing with my demons on my own….unwilling to let anyone see me as anything but tough and happy.

I’m over that shit.

It took quite a while for my wonderful husband to break down my walls and show me that being a “girl” in front of him was okay. I still try not to cry in front of him, but if I do…he knows just what to do to comfort me. I still try and hide being upset, but he sees right through it, and usually does something weird to make me laugh.

There aren’t a lot of people in this world that can comfort you by simply being by your side…but he does.

There aren’t a lot of people who try and understand your pain instead of just putting it off…but he does.

There certainly aren’t a lot of men who listen to their wives ramble about their girly drama…but he does.

There aren’t a lot of men who step back and take the time to teach their wives whatever it is they want to learn…but he does.

He never mocks all my questions and is always teaching me new things and building me up.

He has never once told me I couldn’t do something, and always encourages me to try.

He believes in me when I don’t.

He is my best friend and my partner for life.

You really are my other half, babe…and I’d be so lost in this world without you.

Love never fails.

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xoxo

OkieGirl