Is it possible to love yourself without knowing who you truly are?
This is a question I have been asking myself a lot lately.
I think it is possible, because I believe a healthy person continues to reinvent themselves throughout their life. Loving yourself & finding yourself are both a journey, not a destination. We can get so overwhelmed by all our little imperfections that we don’t see any goodness in ourselves anymore. This can absolutley destroy our relationship with ourselves. This will cut out all the beauty, joy & love that could be possible in our lives.
Happiness is ultimately an inside job.Whatever you believe about yourself on the inside is what you will manifest on the outside.
I struggle daily with focusing on all my little imperfections & making them seem huge. I struggle with horrible anxiety as well, which makes this all 20 times worse. Because anxiety keeps me from reaching my full potential & allowing my true self to blossom. I mean, how are others supposed to enjoy my company when I’m not even sure I enjoy my own.
When you wake up one day & you don’t really know who you are anymore, it’s very hard to ignore. So I’ve decided to get a little selfish sometimes…..like this quote for example:
“self love is an ocean & your heart is a vessel. make it full & any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you MUST come first. -Beau Taplin Society”
and people in the world will constantly try to tell us what we should do, how we should act, etc… But no!
Just no.. growing up in school I embraced who I was, always. I loved that I was unique & nobody could tell me otherwise. But somewhere along the way, I started caring. Since I’m starting this journey in loving myself & finding myself again, no more will I care. I’m letting go of the need to be loved by all. Some people aren’t going to be able to handle my rawness. I’ve realized as long as you continue to exist just to fulfill other peoples ideas of who you should be, you’ll never know who you truly are. We aren’t all supposed to be the same. How much fun would life really be if we were all the same?….I don’t think it would be.
I appreciate all kinds of people. Their beliefs, their habits, their goals, their imperfections, just everything that makes the person who they are. So I’m learning to relearn everything based on what I think and feel, not on what I’ve been told. I’m going to leave ya’ll with a little quote that helps me with this journey…
“He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away” -Raymond Hull
xoxo – a wandering gypsy